My years in practice have taught me the universality of our struggles with imperfection. But just as we all are capable of suffering, I believe that we are all capable of growth and healing as well. I believe that you are the expert on you. My job is not to tell you who or how to be or direct you towards a predetermined outcome. Through the work that we do together, we will clarify your goals for therapy, and look to resolve the issues that are causing you distress and work towards health, happiness, and well-being. The development of self-awareness alongside the pillars of courage, vulnerability and self-compassion create an irresistible force for change.
I aim to create an environment of safety, trust and courage for clients to do their best work. And I respect clients needs for balancing this supportive context with individually-appropriate levels of challenge and pacing. Best outcomes often occur when there is harmony between the two.
I was initially trained as a psychodynamic therapist which means we process issues with the assumption that past experiences and relationships are guiding and informing the present. All of these previous experiences and relationships have created a way of being in the world that helps define you – but unfortunately, some of these are either not helping, or causing you pain and suffering.
My work with you is informed by your presenting issues and individual goals. After our initial assessment, I may apply one or more of the following complementary evidenced-based therapies/approaches to my base of psychodynamic therapy: cognitive behavioural therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, dialectic behaviour therapy, attachment theories, neuroscience, trauma-based therapies (somatic), polyvagal theory, mindfulness, positive psychology. Throughout the process, we will clarify the dynamics at play and I will provide the psychological research that guides our way forward.
I work under the assumption that every client comes to therapy because they authentically seek positive change. I will do my absolute best to support you in the pursuit of your goals, but I cannot offer any guarantees in terms of outcomes. Research suggests that some of the key elements to successful change include: client-therapist fit, clients readiness for change, commitment to the process and regular attendance.
One of the most difficult aspects of the therapeutic process can be taking the first step. Reaching out and asking for help can feel like admitting weakness, which can cascade into feelings of unworthiness and shame. For many people these feelings will decrease the likelihood of them ever reaching out for help. It can all feel like too much.
“You get this one life. If you do not have your deepest desires in sight (desire comes from the old Latin, meaning ‘of the stars’) … if you do not keep your star in sight, you’re in danger of losing everything that is precious to you, and living out a life that is like a shell. You build a house for yourself, which you haunt like a ghost instead of inhabiting it as a real person.” – David Whyte
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